Never Enough Life Updates Department

It has been a while since I posted to this blog, hasn't it?

To be brief: I think I can say now that Amber, who I mentioned in the last post, is my current love interest. :) She, too, is trans--although in more of a genderfluid sense--and we have a lot in common. It helps that she's just as much of a computer nerd and a kinkster as I, if not more so. She's also much more involved in the local geek communities, given her connection to Norwescon. It also helps that she's cute and cuddly and adorable and fun. The only real downside to our relationship is that she is married--I know Amber's wife and she's pretty awesome herself--but it's an open relationship, and as long as Amber's wife approves of me, all should be well.

Amber also runs a fetish photography studio called Bound Muse--for details, please visit http://boundmuse.com/

I've also been pretty active on Twitter nowadays, and encourage those of you who want to see short bursts of drivel from me to go there. Here you'll only see meanderings. Maybe the occasional penetrating analysis. Obviously you'd rather find out the Black Metal Of The Day (#bmotd) than read here. :)

I'm also active on Blip.FM, which is similar to Twitter only it focuses on music. You can DJ through this, and I have been:

http://blip.fm/lilithvf1998 -- For the more eclectic stuff (including, yes, black metal, but it's really all over the map! Recent blips include Captain Beefheart, DEVO, and Screamin' Jay Hawkins, for example.)

http://blip.fm/femmetal -- For female-oriented metal, e.g. metal bands with at least one active woman in the band. This one has been more of a challenge, but has been all the more rewarding for it!

I also posted more recent pics--including Norwescon pics--on my Flickr account.

Finally, I'm also on FaceBook, for those who would rather follow me there. All my blog posts here are echoed there, so you won't be missing much. :)

Enjoy! I am!

Never Enough Good Assurances Department

After months of separation, Cynthia an I are moving towards a very friendly divorce. I think that we are actually kind of surprised, and even pleased, with the overall results. It's as if our lives got a major kick-start when we realized we would fare better separately. So those of you who insist on being sad over this, STOP IT ALREADY. FEEL HAPPY FOR US, REALLY.

She's getting ready to go to college--for which I am intensely proud of her. Frankly, it'll be easier for her as a recent divorcee to obtain financial aid. All who know just how smart she is, will be happy to know she'll get to expand upon that. The last few times I saw her, she seemed pretty happy too, and seems to be getting many of her health issues straightened out. Of course, being single is bringing challenges she never had to face before, but again I'm proud of her for facing those challenges, and more to the point, to embrace them. I'm confident she'll arise in the end, stronger than ever, and we'll all be awe-struck.

Her life isn't the only one improved by the separation.

I saw my doctor because I have bronchitis and she commented that I looked good and relatively toned, compared to the last time she saw me--have I been working out? No, just walking a lot, now that I don't have someone to drive me around everyplace. She was also amazed at my weight, given that I quit smoking. Most people quitting smoking usually experience more stress and tend to snack more, so she was expecting it to increase; instead it has remained stable for the past several months. (Cyn, honey, I love you, but I am so glad to not be living with smokers right now. FWIW, I'm glad you've cut back on your smoking too.) I've also made a good start with getting my dental woes resolved, and my chiropractic treatments continue with good results, have had a fair amount of hair removal done, and have gotten my hair cut nicely--things that would have been difficult to justify previously. And it's been increasingly easy to get a grip on my mental health as well. It's almost like being reborn.

For those in particular who are worried I'd be lonely--don't be. I'm dating a very nice, interesting, compatible person without any particular eye on an outcome, except to enjoy a bit of time together once a week. It helps that her kinks compliment mine very nicely. *ahem*

So again--stop worrying about us. We rock.

Never Enough Template Tinkering Department

I have reverted the template for this blog, somewhat. Mainly, the tinkering I had done was causing HTML errors, apparently, and rather than wading through someone else's code to find what I accidentally deleted, it seemed better to salvage the most important modifications then start anew. If anyone prefers the previous, dark red look, I'll see about retooling the template to reflect that.